On Being Good In Bed. Intimacy and trust can shrink the difference but aren't likely to erase it completely. You will also occasionally run into special situations in which her particular needs are so pressing that your own gratification runs a very distant second to satisfying her. There are various techniques for slowing down; one that I find effective is to thrust deep and then just freeze, no genital or body motion at all for a few seconds. Feedback should go both ways; she'll please you more, and enjoy you more, if she knows which things she's doing right. So cultivate whole-body sensitivity if you can.
It works -- if you follow it you won't go far wrong.
Feedback should go both ways; she'll please you more, and enjoy you more, if she knows which things she's doing right. The most frustrating sexual encounter I ever had was with a guy who did not react at all to anything I did. One of the best lovers I ever had was short and thin, but his mouth and hands made up for it. You've got hands and lips. Women don't really expect men to be sex gods -- they just want the guys to try to meet their needs. Rub your body against his.